Untangling

entangled1

Whereas those who, being impelled by their desires, work with a selfish motive become entangled because they are attached to the fruits of their actions.  – Bhagavad Gita –

The most common human being have their mind, desires and sense of “I am” entangled, confusing the three as if they were an unbreakable block; therefore, is unable to resist their desires, believing he is his own desires.

With meditation and deep reflection, however, we become able to untangle the desires and our sense of I. As a result, desires lose a large part of their power, because they depend on our identification with them.

entangled2

With time, we also disentangle our thoughts and our “I”, and also thoughts are dramatically reduced, following the same mechanism as desires: most of our mental rumination is due to our identification with our thoughts. Indeed,  desires and thoughts exists thanks to our automatic identification with them.

entangled3

In such estate, still there are desires and thoughts, depending or our residual identification with them, but now we are able to see them as something external to our self, and they are not able to control us anymore.

Eventually, while we are in a full mindfulness state, thoughts and desires almost disappear, only self left: that is realization of the self.

entangled4

Despite contact with the material body, O Arjuna, the soul neither does anything nor is entangled. – Bhagavad Gita –

Advertisements

You were not expecting, and yet happened

You were not expecting, and yet happened
Your life was “solved”. No problems. All is right.
You had two houses, two cars, a good job, family, etc. etc.
Your future didn’t have any surprise, only grow old, slowly.

Yet looking carefully, you could see there was insatisfaction.
But you was anesthetized by the daily routine, you were not able to realize the insatisfaction, it was subconscious. Moreover, you didn’t want to see it.
So seemed your life was decided.

And then, you met someone. And your established points of view start to change.
Slowly, your mind become open, and you become able to see your life as really is: incomplete.

You know, the truth is tough: now you know, now you need change all, but is so difficult. How you can change all without damage your family? Impossible.
So the suffering starts his job: you feel like pulled by two ropes in contrary directions, with enormous strength, one want to keep your life, want don’t damage your beloved ones, the other want freedom, want fulfillment of your old dreams, almost forgotten, this dreams now are knocking your door, they claim answers.

The pressure and the suffering increases, the personality starts to crack, and eventually, collapses, unable to give protection against the pressure of your contradictory desires. Someone had to give.

That day, something die within you, and you reborn again as someone different. Your old desires, and frustrations, dissolved. For some time, only a void remain there, an unpleasant sensation. But Nature is wise, and he always put something for fill the void, in this case, Nature replaces desires with peace, only peace, yes, but a impressive peace, deep one, unlimited one. And suffering stops.

Living without desires
You ask: is possible to live without desires? Well, yes, but is incompatible with to have an ego, because both are non separables. So the end of desires implies the death, or the weakening, of the ego.

To live without an ego, or with a weak ego, implies to start to feel the unit of life, the unit of the existence. Also, you become able to feel your real self, beyond your body and mind. This inner self was there when you were a child, a teenager, and adult; years only add stuff to your personality, but the inner self is the same. So you meet yourself. The most important meeting.

The inner travel starts, is not a travel for weak people, because it destroys your world. Really, spirituality is a destructing way, your points of view, your ideas, concepts, even you own image about yourself, are destroyed. You reborn again. You know, there are a lot of spiritual paths, from Sufis up to Zen, from Taoism up to Hinduism … but the aim is always the same: destruct the ego, the lower self, know the inner real self, beyond dualities, aligned with all the creation, free of selfish desires. And this is only the first stage of the travel.

Comments and questions about this inner travel will be well received 🙂

Hopes, dreams and will

Many of us in life start out great works, following dreams. Often we don’t finish them. One of the great agonies of life is that we are constantly trying to finish that which is unfinishable, finding ourselves in so many instances having to face the fact that our dreams are not fulfilled. Life is a continual story of shattered dreams. For example, many of us (almost all of us indeed!) are trying to build a life of peace, within us and outside us too. We speak out against war, we protest, but it seems that your head is going against a concrete wall. It seems to mean nothing. We try to have nice, peaceful, open relationships with our neighbors and relatives, but is difficult. And this fact make me think about hopes and dreams, desires and unfulfilled desires, becoming frustrations.

Hopes

Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today” – Thich Nhat Hanh, Zen Buddhist monk.

Hopes are to have good expectations about the future. Whether we are identified with our mind, on greater or lesser degree, have hope is important for to bear the difficulties of life, because the mind works in that way: always thinking in the future, based on the past. So a mind without hope can hardly overcome difficulties, indeed would be a mind with psychological problems.

What about a person who only think when is necessary? A person anchored in the present, full awakened, without worries about the future. Does such person needs have hope? I think he doesn’t. He don’t live in the time, but in the eternal present, so hope don’t have meaning for him, because hope is related to the future. Moreover, hope is helpful when we don’t accept our present, but a realized person have full acceptance of it. So the quote from the Zen master is useful before attain enlightenment, that is, the state of 99,99% of human beings. But then, what happen with dreams? Is enlightenment incompatible with to have dreams?

Dreams

I still have a dream, a dream deeply rooted in the American dream – one day this nation will rise up and live up to its creed, “We hold these truths to be self evident: that all men are created equal.” I have a dream...” – Martin Luther King, Jr. (1963)

Usually we use the word “dream” for express a wish which we hope, but not a little wish, but an important one, a vital wish which bring sense to our life. Usually we only have a dream, maybe a few of them, but not a lot of them. Is a common thought having a inspirational dream is important for have a successful life. There are dreams related with high ideals, such the one of Martin Luther King about the equality of all men of all races, and other dreams more personal, like the dream of a child who wants to become a rocket man.

Being important wishes, dreams can be the fuel needed for to do hard works without faltering: the aim is really important, and we have the hope we can do it. But frequently happens we become identified with our dreams (indeed, is a common way for all desires, even little ones). Then, if the reality deny us the achievement of our dream, we lost our hope and, even worst, we feel denied, reduced, frustrated, because the dream was part of our identity. On the contrary, when a dream comes true we feel asserted, reinforced. Is a well known psychological fact. At this point the question is: are there an alternative? We have to depend to the hope and fulfillment of dreams?

Will

As hopes, dreams need time, they are in the time: in the present we work for them, hoping their fulfillment in the future. So an enlightened mind, beyond the time, can’t have dreams? Well, we can ask ourselves: from where arises our dreams? In all of us there are a need of development, a need of “to be someone” through the action expressed: is the role that dreams play for us. There are a power behind dreams, a power of life willing to express, to manifest. I named this power: the will, pure will of expression. All the dreams are channels for this will. In a deep sense, we really are our will, not our dreams, but the will behind dreams. Moreover, pure will is beyond time, it have no aims, is a force, the force of life.

So we can now answer to the questions. We can have dreams, work for them, fail, and still we can feel motivated, asserted, because while we are working we are applying our will, so we are already being, no matter with the future, no need for fulfill our dream in some future. Of course, is we achieve it, better for us, but is not necessary. Let me repeat it, because is the key for avoid feelings of failure and denial of our being:

While we are working for achieve our dreams, working out our will, expressing it, we are being who we are, in the present, right now, no matter what the future brings, success or failure.

So an enlightened person can also have dreams, of course, and he have high ones for sure, but he don’t need any hope, he are identified with the inner will beyond time, and in each moment he do his best and enjoy with the action without identify with the results. Is the perfect action of the Tao, also of the Karma Yoga, and also on many other philosophies.

Namaste!