Whereas those who, being impelled by their desires, work with a selfish motive become entangled because they are attached to the fruits of their actions. – Bhagavad Gita –
The most common human being have their mind, desires and sense of “I am” entangled, confusing the three as if they were an unbreakable block; therefore, is unable to resist their desires, believing he is his own desires.
With meditation and deep reflection, however, we become able to untangle the desires and our sense of I. As a result, desires lose a large part of their power, because they depend on our identification with them.
With time, we also disentangle our thoughts and our “I”, and also thoughts are dramatically reduced, following the same mechanism as desires: most of our mental rumination is due to our identification with our thoughts. Indeed, desires and thoughts exists thanks to our automatic identification with them.
In such estate, still there are desires and thoughts, depending or our residual identification with them, but now we are able to see them as something external to our self, and they are not able to control us anymore.
Eventually, while we are in a full mindfulness state, thoughts and desires almost disappear, only self left: that is realization of the self.
Despite contact with the material body, O Arjuna, the soul neither does anything nor is entangled. – Bhagavad Gita –